Now Playing: How can we best support each other?
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Many cross dressers wives ask the same question: How do I deal with the initial shock and anger over finding out that their long time spouse or partner is a cross dresser? There are many valid answers and options. The overwhelming majority of cross dressers wives feel extremely betrayed and therefore enraged. This is a common reaction. You are in essence mourning over what you though you had in your marriage. However this is not to state that the answer for one suits all of us, for that is simply not the case. Many do end up separating or divorcing, while others live with the resentment and there are some that adjust and accept the fact that their husbands have a life long condition and they choose to stay with him. The answer of how to deal with the pain boils down to a personal choice, after each one of us examines what we need in the relationship and can we or should we stay is simply up for each of us to decide.
For me, I made a conscious choice to stay until our child left for college. This was the right choice solely for me and I am not advocating divorce. What I do advocate is to seek out assistance with family members, friends, religious leaders and therapy to help you to contend with this often painful and baneful experience. And of course utilize our forum to connect with women who are or have experienced the same shock.
It took me well over two years to come to terms with it and I am happy that I now live a peaceful and honest life once I made the choice to leave him. The skeletons are out of the closet and that was such a relief in and of itself!
